Vlambeer apologized for perceived racism. Polygon reported. The internet exploded.
More like “Vlambeer apologised for leaving a very negative interpretation of their work open. Polygon went around pretending like people ‘choose’ to feel offended (going against what Vlambeer had just said) and that being offended is the only consequence of things such as the holocaust or the violence against women in our current gaming culture (which it isn’t). Several segments of the internet spoke up and lazygamer.net thought it would be a good idea to classify that response as ‘personal attacks’ and singling out a particular person in the discussion and framing them as ‘that one hypersensitive feminist, amirite folks’.”
Where’s lolatmra’s text post about how men pride themselves in “not being offended” when I need it?
"People need to stop complaining about how I am constantly upsetting them because it is upsetting me."
- People who don’t understand what being offended is
I feel as if this focus on Owen Good’s toxic reporting on the incident is missing the point of the linked article. If anything Zoe Hawkins (the linked article’s author) is saying that the culture of attacking those who offends us is just as toxic as the culture of considering those who get offended as weak. I also agree with her that how the discussion shifted away from Good having an unhealthy opinion of those who get offended to how white cis-males are all terrible was a huge swing in the wrong direction.
Getting offended happens, and when that happens both the offended and the offender(s) need to examine why the offense occurred. In this instance Vlambeer was perfect in his response, and as Hawkins stated, it should have ended there.
Again, the act of being offended isn’t in and of itself something which innately deserves attention and respect. It’s the examination of how such a state occurred, and whether or not the root of that state is indeed problematic (for example: being offended at subjugation vs being offended by subjugated populations seeking equality). We need to stop blindly following rage trains and to start thinking about what is actually happening, and what the real causes are.
I’ll end my contribution by repeating the Stephen Fry quote which Hawkins used to conclude her article:
"It’s now very common to hear people say, ‘I’m rather offended by that.’ as if that gives them certain rights. It’s no more than a whine. It has no meaning, it has no purpose, it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. ‘I’m offended by that.’ Well, so fucking what?"